I don’t know how well this blog will work. All previous forays into blogging have ended in abject failure, so there are now a few blogs by me lying around various places on the internet with a handful of posts on each. However, I’m having another bash, but this time it feels like there is more of a purpose, I might have a bit more drive, and I have something more definite to write about.
As you can probably guess from my user name, that something is becoming a mummy. My OH and I have been together for 10 years, and had our civil partnership in 2008. For the past couple of years, we have been aiming to have a baby. So far, we have been unsuccessful (you can read the full story here).
I’m finding the world of fertility treatment a little bewildering to be honest, and part of the reason for this blog is to try and make sense of it! Even if noone reads it, at least it’s a space for me to try and get my head round things.
Whenever something happens in my life, I have 2 default sources of information and support: the internet, and books. I went to a fertility-related website, and posted several times. I introduced myself. Every other introduction posted that day got a welcome, mine didn’t. I posted about the situation OH and I were having with the miscarriage. No answer. I posted in the LGBT forum and was (fairly rudely) told that “all the other gays had their babies and had left”. I didn’t fit there, perhaps because I’m the “other mother”.
There are also very few books about my situation. OH has very kindly bought me 2. I’ve read about 2 sections of one, and have totally recognised so much of myself in them already, so I think they could help. But they are very much about people who have their babies, or whose partners are already pregnant and about to pop. There’s nothing about the non-biological parent while the treatment is happening.
So I guess the other part of the reason for this blog is to see if I can connect with others in my situation or who have been in this situation, and others who are on their own journey to have a baby.
Thanks for reading x