I don’t know how well this blog will work.  All previous forays into blogging have ended in abject failure, so there are now a few blogs by me lying around various places on the internet with a handful of posts on each.  However, I’m having another bash, but this time it feels like there is more of a purpose, I might have a bit more drive, and I have something more definite to write about.

As you can probably guess from my user name, that something is becoming a mummy.  My OH and I have been together for 10 years, and had our civil partnership in 2008.  For the past couple of years, we have been aiming to have a baby.  So far, we have been unsuccessful (you can read the full story here).

I’m finding the world of fertility treatment a little bewildering to be honest, and part of the reason for this blog is to try and make sense of it!  Even if noone reads it, at least it’s a space for me to try and get my head round things.

Whenever something happens in my life, I have 2 default sources of information and support: the internet, and books.  I went to a fertility-related website, and posted several times.  I introduced myself.  Every other introduction posted that day got a welcome, mine didn’t.  I posted about the situation OH and I were having with the miscarriage.  No answer.  I posted in the LGBT forum and was (fairly rudely) told that “all the other gays had their babies and had left”.  I didn’t fit there, perhaps because I’m the “other mother”.

There are also very few books about my situation.  OH has very kindly bought me 2.  I’ve read about 2 sections of one, and have totally recognised so much of myself in them already, so I think they could help.  But they are very much about people who have their babies, or whose partners are already pregnant and about to pop.  There’s nothing about the non-biological parent while the treatment is happening.

So I guess the other part of the reason for this blog is to see if I can connect with others in my situation or who have been in this situation, and others who are on their own journey to have a baby.

Thanks for reading x


2 comments on “About

  1. No real words of wisdom, but just wanted to acknowledge your feelings. It’s hurtful when you open up on a forum and no one seems to give a damn. I’m sure there’s a community of “other mothers” out there, I’ll let you know if I come across any! Hugs x

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